Originally, a blog post with a title of “Engaged” might have referred to the excellent conference I attended last weekend in MontrĂ©al by the name of Design Engaged. However, this time, it is not the case. As inspirational and involved as DE was, I’m afraid it pales in comparison to this different form of engagement.

The Mission

Sixty of our friends were gathered to play a scavenger hunt in celebration of my coming birthday. The game was organized with The Go Game in the Haight-Ashbury neighbourhood. Each team of approximately 5 or 6 is armed with a smartphone and a camera and instructed to seek out people and clues throughout the area. Some missions are finding answers while others, called “creative missions” involve taking the camera and taking a photograph or video that would be judged later for its creativity. For example, you might be asked to re-enact a historical scene in dance form.

Secretly, I’d arranged for a final mission for our team which would lead to a certain question being popped. I have so much to tell but this video tells it so much better than any words I could write at the moment.

Go Game Engagement from Kevin Cheng on Vimeo.

The Date

The date on which the proposal occurred and the song that was being played were both significant and related. On 3:27PM EST, June 20th, 2007, before Coley and I were even dating, Coley text messaged me from across the country. The text said:

I’ll walk down the lane / with a haaaappy refrain / just singin’ / and dancin’ in the rain

To which, without hesitation, I responded:

I’m only happy when it rains / I’m only happy when it’s comp-licated

And so, SMS Song Soup was born. On that tumblelog, there was one song that directly referenced days. A song by Chris Cagle which appeared on Day 67, and Day 116. It was to appear one more time, played live. Coley and I explain it in more detail in this video.

Story Behind Day 482 (Engagement Day) from Kevin Cheng on Vimeo.


Living with the person you’re going to propose to makes it surprisingly hard to shop for engagement rings, so I’d like to especially thank my longtime friend and coworker Nick for going on lunch man dates with me to acquire the ring and also for playing photographer during the proposal. Two of my best friends, Diana and Mike (who were in on the proposal the entire time), were great to bounce ideas off of and they played their parts in redirecting attention and video recording the whole thing (courtesy of a last-minute loan from another coworker, Charles). And thanks to Cynthia who helped with the logistics and end venue planning. Cynthia also lent her videographer skillz and counted us up to the happiest moment!

As I already mentioned in the video, I’m blown away by how great the Go Game staff was. I’ve always been a fan of the game and now I can’t recommend them more highly. If you’re looking for a party event or team building event for your company, check out The Go Game. If you ever get Charles as one of your actors in the game, know that you’re in great hands.

The garden where the proposal happened is in the middle of Cole Valley and is an extension of the beautiful establishment that is The Sword & The Rose. It was one of the first places we’d visiting in San Francisco together. Go check out Andy David’s store if you’re in the neighbourhood.

And of course, thanks to everyone that congratulated us and sent their wishes with just about every medium imaginable!

Update: We’re married! Our wedding date was 10-10-10, and we posted our vows.


  1. Jeremy · 14 Oct 08

    This is wonderful news. Major congratulations to Kevin and Coley! This will certainly be one stylish wedding.

    Looking forward to toasting you next time you’re in New York.

    Oh, and Happy Birthday too… :-)

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  3. Kari · 14 Oct 08

    That was such a cute story behind the engagement date! Congrats again to you two, and best of luck on the new home and the new life together.

    I’m looking forward to the announcement on day 761! ;)

  4. kristin · 14 Oct 08

    sneaky mcSneakersons!
    you guys warm the world with your smiles.
    all the world to both of you
    Love & Cheers!

  5. will · 14 Oct 08

    Aww! *sniff* *sniff* Congratulations again!!! Fabulous proposal Kev! I’m glad there were subtitles this time, had no idea what you were saying in the original =)

  6. Enric · 14 Oct 08

    Very touching and transcendent…

  7. Robert · 14 Oct 08

    Perfect. Well done!

  8. Tara Brown · 14 Oct 08

    You guys made my heart all happy. What an amazing day. So so glad I was there. Thank you for sharing. xoxox

  9. Kevin · 14 Oct 08

    That’s crazy awesome. Great setup too. Congrats guys!

  10. Courtney · 14 Oct 08

    The way you proposed is so wonderful and well-thought out… I wouldn’t expect anything less from you, KC. :) I love you both!

  11. Andrew Mager · 14 Oct 08

    I really enjoyed that video. Congrats you too. Never stop loving.

  12. Momz · 14 Oct 08

    Oh my dears ! I remember playing that song game long before we knew anything about Kevin. Oh happy happy times. Singin’ in the rain & sunshine & every kind of weather to you both forever. XXXOOOMomz

  13. Telene · 14 Oct 08

    Geez!! How fantastic was that? Very well planned, and it couldn’t have gone off better :) I got all teary-eyed watching it… you two!

    Here’s to a long, happy life together for you Kevin & your lovely, wonderful Coley ^.^


  14. Jan · 14 Oct 08

    I wish the world could see this… everyone needs this much joy in their lives :c )


  15. Ben · 15 Oct 08

    Very creative. You are too awesome, Kev.
    And getting it all on video was even awesomer!
    I had tears well up just watching it (at work).
    So so very happy for you both: congratulations!

  16. Joshua Kaufman · 15 Oct 08

    Amazing!!@@@ Congrats to both of you. This made my day :)

  17. willo · 15 Oct 08

    love it! so sweet, and I absolutely love that you documented it (especially since I wasn’t there to witness it go down in person!) :)

    I love you two & am so delighted to hear of this great news!

    and happy birthday, kevin!

  18. Mum and Dad · 15 Oct 08

    This is amazingly beautiful and touching. Our blessings to both of you.

    Congrats Coley and Kevin.

    Love Always,
    Mum and Dad

  19. Angela · 15 Oct 08

    I had tears in my eyes after watching the video – congratulations to you both..


    Your cousin..

  20. Natalie Villalobos · 16 Oct 08

    I teared up! CONGRATULATIONS TO THE BOTH OF YOU! It’s been too long since I’ve seen your cheerful faces. I look forward to smothering the both of you with hugs and kisses ASAP!


  21. Karl Long · 20 Oct 08

    Congrats Kevin, I just met you guys for the first time not long ago so it’s super cool to hear you are now engaged :-)

  22. Bob · 21 Oct 08

    Many congratulations Kevin (and Coley)!

  23. Shafiq · 21 Oct 08

    Hey Kevin –

    Many congratulations to the both of you. Well planned and nicely done. Will you be writing the comic? :)


  24. MASAN · 21 Oct 08

    congratulations Coley and Kevin. Man! I am so glad there are still some romantic-sapiens walking earth!

  25. blisseeeeeee · 22 Oct 08

    i don’t like it when people make me cry but i SUPPOSE you 2 are worth it. you little punx. congratulations on crack to the power of all that is algebraic. i shall drink my glass of cardboard box wine in your honor tonight.

  26. Bob · 22 Oct 08

    Cut off earlier: I like your style, sir. I hope you have many more happy days together, and never tire of saying “I love you” in everyday and unusual ways.

  27. George · 30 Oct 08

    Lovely stuff!! Congratulations, Kevin & Coley!

  28. Andy Budd · 11 Jan 09

    Missed this one dude. Congratulations to the both of you :-)